01075853 Continued from A5 Continued from A5 A6 AMERICAN PRESS WEDNESDAY, DECEMBER 18, 2019 LIFE Dear Abby: a 25-year- old female currently serving a nine-year prison sentence. It is the first time I have ever been in trouble (wrong place, wrong time). My boyfriend is 24. been together 2 1 2 years and have had our ups and downs (mostly ups). I am truly in love with him, and he tells me he will always be there for me.
I have been in prison for five months so far, and he missed a visit or a phone call. He also makes sure I have money on my books. worried that some- where down the road, since so young, he will meet someone and move on. In a way, I would kind of under- stand I want his life to stop because mine has. But I also want to lose him.
How do I keep our relationship strong, or should I let him go? Locked Up in Delaware Dear Locked Up: Nine years is a long time, and sometimes life happens in the interim. I predict what will happen, and you either. Take things a day at a time. Keep the lines of communication open and honest. Because things are going well, do not him If the romance ends, so be it.
But if it does, appreciate that he seems to be a staunch friend and ally. Dear Abby: I love my wife. We have been married for 38 years. However, she does some- thing that drives me crazy. I have a hard time going to sleep at night, and if disturbed in those first few minutes of sleep, up all night.
We both agreed that when we say it means no more talking or loud noises. But almost every night after saying she wakes me up with something she HAS to say or explore. If it was an emergency, I mind, but usually some- thing of no consequence that could wait until morning. I have tried ignoring her, pretending to be asleep, saying in a rough tone of voice and getting an- gry. Nothing seems to work.
I would appreciate some advice for dealing with this. Sleep- less in Texas Dear Sleepless: A solid sleep is crucial for good health. Tell your wife to keep a notepad by the side of the bed and jot down what she wants to discuss the next morning. However, if she persists in awakening you, get up and go into another room. And continue doing it until your wife agrees to show more consideration.
Dear Abby: I have known my friend for more than 60 years. We live in dif- ferent states now, but keep in touch online. While our views are polar opposites on just about everything, we have remained friends. Over the last year, it seems Midge has reverted to being a wild teenager. She is smoking pot, got tattooed and is doing a lot of partying.
Recently, she posted a very lengthy missive, including dozens of pictures, about how much she misses her ex-boyfriend. Abby, they broke up 10 years ago! I asked her sister about her bizarre behavior and was told, just Is it time to let go of the friendship? Not the Same in California Dear Not the Same: Assum- ing that pot is legal in the state where Midge resides, doing nothing illegal, immoral or that will get her pregnant out of wedlock. Because concerned about her, call Midge to hear how she is. Sometimes an abrupt change in personality can be a symp- tom of a physical or mental health issue. Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips.
Write Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069. 2019, Andrews McMeel Syndication Woman serving time fears love will fade Dear Abby Jeanne Phillips COMING UP Primary Purpose: 6 p.m., big book study, open meeting, St. Andrew Episcopal Church, 1532 Sam Houston Jones Parkway. South City group: 10 a.m., open meeting; 8 p.m., closed meeting, St.
Michael Episcopal Church, 123 W. Sale Road. Sulphur group: 7 p.m., open meeting, beginners; Parkview Baptist Church, 1623 Picard Road, Sulphur; 527-8915. Al-Anon, New Beginnings family group: p.m. University United Methodist Church, 3501 Patrick St.
Lake Charles Duplicate Bridge Club: 1 p.m., STaC game; 1600 W. McNeese; 479-2582; for infor- mation on bridge lessons, call 263-0065 or 477-1536 or email Multiple Sclerosis Warriors of Southwest Louisiana support group: 1:30 p.m., Calcasieu Parish Public Library, Central Branch, 301 W. Claude 990- 2585 or 990-2216; group meets third Saturday, monthly. Narcotics Anonymous: NA Helpline: 337-439-5753 or 888-624-3575; Narconon offers free screenings and referrals: 800-431-1754 or DrugAbuseSo- lution.com. Agape group: noon and 8 p.m., open meetings; 1217 Broad St.
Howl group: 7 p.m., open meeting, DeRidder Housing Authority, 600 Warren 337- 401-2128 or 337-462-0123 or 337-789-5782. Lake City Freedom group: 6 p.m., open meeting, 3825 Ryan St. The Living Clean group: 10 p.m. open candlelight meeting, at 326 Broad St. Spirit of the Bayou group: 6 p.m., open meeting, 911 Poole, Sulphur.
New Beginnings Al-Anon Family group: 12:30 p.m., University United Methodist Church, 3501 Patrick St. Overcoming and Maintaining: recovery meeting, p.m., Christian Life Church, 11 Center Circle, Sulphur (across street from Maplewood School in the Methodist Church Fellowship hall); weekly. Overeaters Anonymous: 11 a.m., University United Meth- odist Church, 3501 Patrick weekly meeting; Oa.org/find-a- meeting. Sex and Love Addicts Anony- mous: 9-10 a.m., weekly support group for anyone struggling with excessive and compulsive behaviors or rela- tionship issues. For location and more information on the Lake Charles support group: text or call 337-930-1867; or email Sunday, Dec.
22 Al-Anon: Open Heart family group: 6-7 p.m., Our Lady of Prompt Succor Catholic Church, 1029 LaSalette Drive, Sulphur; weekly meeting; 625-7335. Alcoholics Anonymous (www. Lake Arthur group: 8 p.m., open meeting, corner of 1st and Commercial streets, Lake Arthur; 337-774-2199. Lake Charles group: noon, open meeting, Housing Author- ity building, 326 Broad St. South City group: 1 p.m., open meeting; 8 p.m., closed meeting, St.
Michael Episcopal Church, 123 W. Sale Road. DeRidder group: 4 p.m., open meeting, 107 Wilson DeRid- der; 337-463-2227. On Awakening group: 10 a.m., open-step study, 814 S. Division St.
Sulphur group: 6 p.m., Parkview Baptist Church, 1623 Picard Road, Sulphur; 527-8915. Narcotics Anonymous: NA Helpline: 337-439-5753 or 888-624-3575; Narconon offers free screenings and referrals: 800-431-1754 or DrugAbuseSo- lution.com. Agape group: 3 p.m. for women only, closed meeting; and 8 p.m., closed meeting; 1217 Broad St. Howl group: 4 p.m., open meeting, DeRidder Housing Authority, 600 Warren 337- 401-2128.
Lake City Freedom group: noon and 6 p.m., open meet- ings, 3825 Ryan St. The Living Clean group: 8 p.m. open meeting, at 326 Broad St. Spirit of the Bayou group: 1 p.m., open meeting, 911 Poole, Sulphur. p*rnography No More group: 6:30 p.m.; for men only; find freedom from p*rnography and improve relationships.
For more information on Lake Charles group, call 912-8319. Sex Addicts Anonymous: 5 p.m., book study group using the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous paraphrased for sex addiction. For more infor- mation, call or text to 337-548- 0065. Groups can have a meeting notice in the Life section by sending the information, at least one week in advance, to: Coming Up American Press, P.O. Box 2893, Lake Charles, LA 70602, or e-mail to liv- Meetings will be published if information is submitted on a regular basis, either weekly or monthly.
HEALTH those used to treat breast can- cer and multiple myeloma. There is not a consensus on the best way to treat a person who needs dental surgery and who has been taking anti- osteoclast therapy, but the American Association of Oral and Maxillofacial Surgeons recommends surgery as usual for a person who has been on treatment for less than four years, and holding treatment for two months in a person who has been on more than four years or who has also been taking prednisone or a similar steroid. There is no proof that this reduces the already low risk of osteone- crosis of the jaw, but it makes sense based on what we know about the condition. The fact that you took Fosamax for four years and are now on Prolia puts you at higher risk for bone com- plications, so despite the lack of proof, I think holding the Prolia for two months and re- suming once the jaw bone has healed is prudent. I would like to mention that you may have increased risk for atypical femur fracture.
Prolia is not a medicine I usu- ally use after a patient stops Fosamax, since they work similarly and both increase risk for these complications. Discuss with your doctor whether you still need treat- ment for osteoporosis. Hope- fully your bone density has increased. If so, consider a dif- ferent type of treatment, such as teriparatide, which stimu- lates more bone growth rather than blocking resorption. This may reduce the risk of atypi- cal femur fracture that comes from unhealed microfractures.
Readers may email questions to ToYourGood edu or request an order form of available health newsletters at P.O. Box 536475, Orlando, FL 32853- 6475. 2019, North America Syndicate LaGrange High class of 1970: 50th reunion, Oct. 17, 2020. Send contact information to com.
Reunion announce- ments will be made primarily via email, and the Class of Facebook site: LaGrange Reunion 1970. Photos can be mailed to 4211 Beau Chene Lake Charles, LA 70605. Second Boston School: Reunion celebration: Dec. 20-22, meet-and-greet, parade, gala and church ser- vice; $100 per alumni member; annual alumni membership, $25. Alumni meeting, 6 p.m., every third Thursday, New Emmanuel Baptist Church, 502 N.
Lyons St. Contact: Cheryl Burrell, 433-8371; or Loretta Cotlone, 661-5410, or email W.O. Boston High class of 1974: 45-year reunion, celebrating with Second Boston, Dec. 20-22. Contact: Jackie Bilbo Mason, 409-749-7526; Arthur White, 337-515-0389; or Brenda G.
Jackson, 337-304-8579. HIGH SCHOOL REUNIONS Dr. Wallace: Two girls were my two closest friends, but they know each other until I introduced them to each other at a party recently. Soon after the party, they be- came best friends and started acting cold toward me. I guess the old saying that two is company and three is a crowd can be true.
At school, they totally ignore me these days. This has caused me to become very depressed because now I have any close friends. To compound the problem, really shy and make friends too easily. What should I do? My mom thinks that I should try to get some new friends and forget all about those two. My stepdad thinks I should try to convince the girls to once again be my friends.
Please give me your advice. All of us are 15 years old. One girl even lives three houses down the street from me. Unfriended, via email Unfriended: I would take your advice, but do anything rash to cause friction between you and your two former friends. Be polite, and talk with them when the opportunity arises, but waste your time waiting for them to call and invite you back into the group.
Try to say hello to some new girls at school when the opportunity arises. You might notice one wearing nice shoes or clothes that you like, and you could ask her where she got them. It may take you sev- eral times talking to several girls like this, but eventually, find one or two who enjoy your company and wish to get together. Another idea is to join a school club in an area of interest to you. Dr.
Wallace: Since alcohol is made out of fruit, grain and vegetables, could it be consid- ered a food? Even though you can get drunk on too much alcohol, can you also get some good nutrition through fruity alcoholic drinks? I do drink a bit here and there, so I would like to hope I am getting some of my daily nutrients via the Anonymous, via email Anonymous: The Food and Drug Administration actually labels alcohol as a food that is high in calories but con- tains no vitamins, minerals or protein. Alcohol offers no nourishment, and it interferes with the absorption of certain minerals and harms over- all nutrition. Your ongoing alcohol consumption provides you with virtually no nutri- tional value at all, and you are exposed to side effects such as weight gain, inebriation and loss of personal control or personal safety plus the safety of others if you ever drive a motor vehicle after having consumed alcohol. 2019, Creators Syndicate Inc. Take your advice about friends TwEEN 12 20 Dr.
Robert Wallace.
